Society’s denial of our spiritual needs has developed a defense system that is
brilliant in its structure. It tells us first that God does not exist. If we get beyond
that, it tells us that he’s undependable in personal relationships because we can’t
know him individually. If we get past that and acknowledge that we’ve heard the
voice of God as we’ve struggled with questioned identity, questioned worth, or
insecurity, spiritual denial offers its final and most effective argument: living our
lives according to God’s will is punitive, sacrificial, and restrictive. It requires that
we attempt to avoid “sin!”
God wants us to love and to be loved in a personal relationship with him. To
love him and to acknowledge him for who he is. To accept his love and allow him
to nurture us and guide us according to his plan. To love the totality of his creation.
To care for it. To nurture it. To protect it.
What is sin? Anything that prevents us or distracts us from doing that. Spiritual
ignorance, apathy, and denial cause sin.
I grew up thinking that sin was behavior-oriented. It was as though there were
two lists somewhere in a vault in heaven, one listing “Acts of Sin” and the other
listing “Acts of Obedience.” My job was to find out the contents of each list. To
be saved, of course, I would have to eliminate from my behavior those things on
the sin list while simultaneously performing those tasks that appeared on the obedience
list.
Sin is not an act, but a condition that is the inevitable consequence of less-than-
perfect spiritual health. Unhealthy behavior, attitudes, and distractions are
the symptoms. Sin is the illness.
Because of ignorance, apathy, and denial, each of us is born into a world and a
society that are riddled with poor spiritual health. Are any of us personally
responsible for that? We are taught society’s values and beliefs and we are taught
to judge the worth of ourselves and others according to how well we or they relate
to those values. Each of us is victimized by those teachings. We are fed misinformation,
encouraged to be apathetic about the needs of God’s creation, and
rebuked if we attempt to discuss those feelings and needs that others are denying.
Some have a tendency to want to catalogue acts of sin. By doing this, they can
take pride in their avoidance of these acts. They can also admonish themselves
when they succumb to them. This practice also enables them to judge others by
the same standards they apply to themselves. What could be fairer? They can
apply the same principle with respect to their acts of obedience list. The problem
with that tendency is twofold. First, they may depend more on those lists for
guidance than they do on a personal relationship with God. In doing that, the
lists—instead of God—become their primary objects of dependency. Rather than
being faithful to God, they’re faithful to the lists. That faithfulness can exist in
the total absence of any personal relationship with God. If we teach others that
faithfulness to the lists or that religious conformity are synonymous with faithfulness
to God then we are actually discouraging people from having their spiritual
needs met. In that event, we are teaching them to be more dependent on us or
our lists than they are on a personal relationship with God. If they accept that
teaching, they may not allow him to reveal to them what he wants them to know.
The second problem with the tendency to develop lists is that we tend to use
them to judge both ourselves and others. If it wasn’t for this tendency to judge,
why would we even want the lists? In acknowledging God for who he is, he must
be acknowledged as the only qualified judge. If we try to proclaim his judgment
for him, then we’re refusing to acknowledge him for who he is. The American
Indians believed they shouldn’t judge a man until they’d walked in his moccasins.
Which of us is capable of having lived another person’s life? Unless we have, how
could we possibly presume to judge them? Each of us has been born into a world
of sin. But no two of us has had completely identical encounters with it. None of
us can possibly understand fully how events and teachings have affected another
person. Only God can know that. If we judge others as unfaithful, unrepentant,
unloving, or as having diminished worth, we are presuming to do what only God
can do. As a society, we have a need to protect ourselves from those who are blatantly
and persistently victimizing others. We have no need to judge their worth.
None of us is personally responsible for having been born into sin. None of us
is personally responsible for having been taught the lessons of sin. We have been
victimized by spiritual denial. And, to the extent we perpetuate it, we are victimizing
others.
God is aware of our environment of spiritual denial. He knows that we are victims
of it. He knows that we perpetuate it. But because he loves us, he wants us to
overcome it. He wants us to depend on him to satisfy our needs more than we
depend on anyone or anything else.
Because of the proliferation of “Sin Lists” and “Acts of Obedience” lists circulating
in the various religious organizations and because of our tendency to judge
others as well as ourselves, we fall into the trap of believing that faithfulness to
God is a matter of behavior. It’s not. It’s a matter of acknowledging God for who
he is. He wants us to be healthy. If we depend on him to lead us to health, our
behavior will change as a matter of consequence. We’ll gradually learn what we
really need. We’ll gradually try to place the needs of others ahead of our own
wants. We’ll gradually try to place our own needs ahead of the wants of others.
The wisdom of doing those things will become gradually more apparent.
As we gradually learn to allow God to show his dependability, we’ll learn to
risk in ways we’d been afraid to risk before. We’ll learn to defend ourselves and
others without becoming defensive. We’ll learn to nurture others instead of victimizing
them. As his love for us becomes gradually more apparent and our security
in him becomes gradually more sure, we can learn to live our lives with a
freedom we’ve never known before. We’ll be more able to enter relationships
with a willingness to share instead of wanting to control or be controlled.
The world of spiritual denial desires that we allow ourselves to be controlled,
manipulated, and kept in our places by believing the false beliefs we’ve been
taught by the unqualified teachers around us. God simply wants to set us free.
Every new relationship implies some risk. But no one who responds to God
needs to fear rejection or harm. After all, didn’t he approach you first?
Copyright © 2008 by James L. Wilcox
www.believeandlisten.com